As usual I was browsing stuff about getting a man to commit when it hit me reading an article that it all gets down to 4 stages for about everyone..
really funny it is how we can quantify the human behaviours, I still find it
odd, as if we were like any animal documentary you’re watching on TV..
Or are we like any other animal species..? …whatever ..
If you don’t want to read, click here for a video version instead..
So now I’m going to list these 4 stages, I didn’t come up with them all by
myself though, but a little tweak here and there from my point of view you’re going to find them!
Just to be clear though, when talking about a committed relationship, we’re
talking about getting married. I know, like… DUUH!!!
Just had to throw that in sorry guys..
And although nowadays things are getting less “traditional”, meaning the need
to get officially married is no longer a basic requirement for commitment and
moving towards the growing of a family, getting a bigger home, room for the
kids that are coming, hope you’re getting the idea here…
Alright then let’s get this thing rollin’…
1. Very EASY.. the hot romance excitement goosebumps stage, I’m sure you were gonna guess this one.. This is what we all think about when we think about being in love. This is like the fireworks inside the relationship where you can’t stand not to see each other. You wake up thinking your love, go to sleep thinking your love, you’re just so hungry for the feelings and the shivers you just can’t wait to get back together and you see yourselves in all and every
kind of situation.
In this part of the story you can’t even imagine your partner having any flaws
let alone actually acknowledge those flaws. We are adults talking so let’s
have a laugh and say that this is the fun part.
2. Next, we start moving from the “lollipops and roses” stage more into a reality stage.
Big brother is watching you!!!D
The transition from one stage to another can be fast or slow depending on the couple and/or the circumstances.
In a lot of cases moving from stage one to stage two will happen fairly slowly
and there will still be a lot of the “warm, fuzzies” that you had in stage
one. But, now you’re starting to realize your partner’s not that perfect and is capable of having flaws and those flaws may not be quite so cute and
disarming as they were in stage one.
Now don’t some of you people find it curious how sometimes those flaws are
very similar to the ones your last or any other earlier partner had? I’ve seen
it happen I’m telling you and makes me think how could this be? Coincidence?
3. Now you have the power struggle stage. At this stage not only have you
fully acknowledged your partner isn’t perfect, you are starting to get ticked
off at their behavior. Resentments are starting to grow. This is the stage
where it feels like your partner is deliberately trying to make you mad or
unhappy.
This is the point where you and your partner must learn to deal with your
differences in a constructive way. If you don’t, you are setting the rules and
dynamics for the rest of your relationship… and it won’t be pretty.
4. Next is the team-up stage, when the pendulum begins to swing back closer to where it was in stage one. You may not have the fireworks, but you will have found common ground and the two of you will have learned how to effectively communicate and work through your issues.
Usually, in this stage, there is a lot of peace and you feel like a true
partnership or team.
Unfortunately, most couples will never make it to this stage, or beyond.
And finally, what’s the stage we were talking about to begin with.. the
commitment stage? This is the stage where you both realize that your partner isn’t perfect, but you love them and have learned to accept them, warts and all. This is the stage where the real, long lasting magic happens!
Wow, who knew there was so much to a committed relationship? It’s kind of
neat, though rather un-sexy, to have it all spelled out like this. What stage
are you and your partner in right now?
How about that Discovery Channel..?-)
